Five. Mind and Body

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What Helps

Every thought that we have has a physiological component which is felt in our body, and there are reciprocal bodily sensations that can trigger our thoughts.


We know from neuroscience, the mind and the body are interconnected to the extent they are called mindbody, a single interweaving unit.

The body remembers

Neuroscientists talk about it as “the body remembers the body holds the score” meaning the whole experience of grief, is held in our body and influences both what we think, how we feel and the decisions we take.

Grief can feel like fear

It means the pain of grief and loss is often feels like fear, and tips our bodily system into a heightened state of arousal.

Body Regulation

We need to establish a regime that helps regulate our body, wind down that sense of hyper alertness. Which helps us build up our emotional resilience.

The more habitual it is the more effective it is:

  • It needs to be a combination of both cardiovascular exercise which helps ease the feeling of fear; like running, walking, any sport
  • A relaxation/meditation exercise which helps manage our anxiety
  • Combined with eating regularly, without great spikes of sugar coffee and alcohol intake - which send the body peaking and crashing


When we experience a life changing loss it is likely to affect our capacity at work and socially; an important pillar is to recognise the power to say no.