Bringing Up Race: Raising Kind Children in a Prejudiced World

In an era where conversations about race and equality are more urgent than ever, Uju Asika's book, "Bringing Up Race: How to Raise Kind Children in a Prejudiced World," serves as a vital guide for parents navigating the complexities of raising children in a society rife with prejudice. Also, as horrifying racist attacks and protests continue to surge across the UK, the insights shared by Asika in her book, as well as this week’s episode of Therapy Works, could not feel more timely and critical for fostering a new generation of empathetic and socially conscious individuals.

I’ve highlighted a few of her thoughts in this post for how we can to raise kind children in a prejudiced world.

Understanding the Current Context

The past few years have seen a resurgence of overt racism, as evidenced by the alarming wave of racist protests occurring across the UK. These events have not only highlighted the deep-seated issues of racial discrimination but also underscored the necessity for open dialogues about race at home. This environment reminds us that parental guidance plays an essential role in shaping children's values and beliefs. And this could not be more important in a world which is now dominated by social media, and we have less control over what material our children are coming into contact with.

The Importance of Early Conversations

Uju Asika argues that addressing race and prejudice with children should not be avoided or postponed. In a world where children are exposed to various social narratives, it's essential for parents to proactively engage with them on issues of race. Asika emphasises that discussing race openly can establish a foundation of understanding, empathy, and respect in children. By normalising conversations about differences, parents can equipped their children to confront and challenge prejudiced attitudes rather than internalise them.

Emphasising Kindness and Empathy

A significant theme in Asika's work is the emphasis on kindness and empathy as cornerstones for raising children. In the face of the negativity that can arise from prejudiced societies, parents can instill values of kindness and compassion. This can be achieved through various practices:

• Modelling Behaviour: Children often emulate the behaviour of their parents. By demonstrating kindness, inclusivity, and respect for all individuals, parents set a powerful example for their children.

• Promoting Diverse Relationships: Encouraging friendships with people of various backgrounds can help children appreciate diversity. These interactions can foster a sense of community and help dismantle stereotypes.

• Empathy-Focused Learning: Utilising books, media, and real-life stories that celebrate different cultures and experiences can help children develop a broader worldview. Asika suggests curating these resources as tools for discussion.
  ‍‍
• Encouraging Critical Thinking: As children grow, it is essential to foster their ability to think critically about the world around them. Engaging them in discussions about current events, including instances of racism and protests, can help them understand the implications of prejudice and the importance of allyship.

Be Prepared for Tough Questions

Children are naturally curious and may have questions about race, prejudice, and the events unfolding in the world around them. Asika advises parents to be prepared for these inquiries and to respond with honesty and clarity. Acknowledging the existence of racism and its impact reinforces a child's understanding of social justice, while also allowing them to feel safe discussing their thoughts and feelings.

Final Thoughts

Ultimately, "Bringing Up Race" serves as a call to action for parents to take responsibility for the kind of world they wish to pass onto their children. By fostering an environment where discussions about race and kindness are encouraged, parents can empower their children to challenge prejudice and strive for a more inclusive society. Uju Asika's insights remind us that teaching kindness and empathy in the face of prejudice is not just possible—it is essential. We have the power to raise a generation of individuals who will not only reject hatred but also embrace unity and understanding, creating a brighter future for us all.