How to Write a Condolence Card?

At an early Child Bereavement UK conference, I remember Countess Mountbatten of Burma, who at the time was our honorary President and whose son and father were killed by a bomb, saying it was never too late to send a condolence card. And she was always so touched by the messages of love and support they featured, often with a memory that meant the world to her.

While texts and WhatsApps are kind, they often get lost. Letters, on the other hand, can be kept and reread during difficult moments, even decades later. As for what to say, it’s your intention that matters more than the words.

Simply acknowledge the death, say you’re sorry that [name] has died, and, if possible, share a memory or anecdote.

While saying “let me know if I can help” is thoughtful, it can feel vague. If you promise to do something, make sure you follow through.

Do let me know what has helped you? I would love to hear from you and I’m sure others would too.

Julia x